|A closed door and an open window at Quinlan Castle
in Birmingham, England.
Sometimes we get tired, lonely, feel forgotten, or get frustrated. Getting bored and uninterested in our lives is human, and isn’t bad or wrong, per se. While we disengage in some things, we may become newly engaged in others, or more engaged in what we’re already engaged in. “A door doesn’t close without a window opening” holds true for things we’re engaged in.
However, there may be places or things where you want to reengage and you’re just not sure how. You may not feel like you have time to sit around and wait to become magically engaged in something. Perhaps the world looks like it needs you to be engaged right now, and you’re not living up to your personal expectations.
Without disrupting your life too much, here are some approaches you can take to re-engage throughout any individual part of your life, or the whole enchilada.
1. Have fun. For all of us there are times when life can get mundane or even heavy. We might find ourselves going through the motions of life while we’re missing out on the living. This is when we might want to take a different direction and re-engage. When we focus on accumulation and survival, living is left behind and engagement doesn’t matter. Adding fun to life is where that routine changes. Add music to your day, draw yourself together with your family through games and miniature vacations to your backyard. Each of us should be an expert on having fun in our lives, and enjoy life as much as we can. There is nothing more engaging. Here’s 50 creative, cheap ways to have fun.
2. Learn beyond the walls. When you when to school, every day you’d enter your classrooms and the teacher would close the door. Today it is that same way at home, at your job, or when you go to your spiritual practice. You may have no windows, a small desk, and few connections to the world beyond your walls. However, all of us possess hearts, minds, and hands that yearn to connect to the world outside ourselves. The world may have given us a skewed vision of what learning should be. Get outside the walls that surround your heart, your mind, and your hands and beyond the windowless rooms of your life and get carried away by the flood of engagement that Heartspace offers us. Here’s the cool story of a friend of mine who decided to reschool herself.
3. Be gracious with dis-engagement. Every day each one of us has the ability to reach out to millions of people around the world and simply ask, “How are you today?” Yet we don’t. We are not wrong or bad because we aren’t engaged everywhere all the time. We are human. Your process of disengaging is preparing you for new engagement and a new opportunity to form lasting connections within yourself and to the world around you. Be gracious and kind in that process, and trust that wherever you’re headed is the right direction. Here’s 10 ways to be more gracious.
Expand your community. You wake up ever day. You go to the gym. You clock in at the office. You go home and make dinner. You clean house and watch television. You go to bed. Yawn. While you make think you’re a worthy audience to spend all your time with, you are simply one person. One of your best resources is your ability to connect with others and form community. We can connect like never before and have the opportunity to engage with others from around the world on a daily basis. Community literally knows no boundaries. Here’s a cool poster on how to build community.
5. Deconstruct issues. Sometimes simply loving who you are and what you’ve done doesn’t satisfy you. You’ve tried, and find yourself increasingly disinterested in what’s going on around you. These are the times in our lives when we can deconstruct our lives. Instead of just moving around the pieces and installing new lenses to look at things through, we get to take apart the things we thought were permanent and rebuild them to suit who we really are and what we’re really doing. Seeing truth this way is a deeply engaging process and one that can radically reconstitute who you are. Here’s a short piece on the role culture plays in our self-concept.
Imagine your life unfolding as you become more consciously engaged within and around yourself. What do you want to take away at the end of your lifetime? How is that different from how you’ve been living? Do you want more? Have you been waiting your whole life without knowing what you’re waiting for?
No matter where you are in your life or what you’re engaged or disengaged in, it’s best to remember this saying:
Don’t give up on you or what you’re engaged in or disengaged from. Move with intention, on purpose, and you will never move wrong. Engagement always follows.
- Here are 5 More Ways to Re-Engage
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